Widowed mom, 77, seeks help

[Editor’s note: The following letter was left inside our reception window last week. With Mother’s Day upcoming, we don’t know who wrote it or who left it at our office. The letter has been edited for spelling and punctuation, but otherwise is unchanged from the original version.]

Dear Editor:

I want to start my letter by saying that I am a 77-year-old widow with a few problems and I want to share them with your readers and maybe they might wake up and smell the roses, so to speak.

God told his followers to take care of widows and orphans; that is one verse in the Bible everyone seems to ignore.

My daughter has her own set of rules for widows. She says, “Mom, you have to make your own happiness, I can’t make it for you.”

Oh, really? You haven’t been in my house in almost two years. It would make me happy if you visited me. You expect me to drive to your house if I want to see you. It’s a two-hour drive.

The grass in my yard is two feet tall. The leaves and limbs from storms need to be picked up. I haven’t been able to take a shower for three months — the tub drain is blocked, and the faucets won’t turn off. They leak constantly so the tub fills up and I have to dip it out.

It’s so nice taking a bath in the sink, you see, when you get old. So does the house you live in; you know, the one that you worked to hard to pay for, that was back when people who worked paid the bills first and if money was left over we went to a movie and out to eat.

I have a granddaughter who is a “counselor” for school children. She hasn’t been in my home for almost two years. She “texts” me once every three or four months to tell me she loves me.

Love doesn’t mean too much when you are alone day after day with no one to talk to. She parties with friends each weekend and nights during the week, so who wants to spend time with an old lady?

My grandson comes and helps me, but when the money runs out, then I don’t see him till my next Social Security check comes.

I was one of those stupid women who thought if you want to raise responsible, loving children, you stay home and don’t work, so you can “be there for them” when they need you. That apparently didn’t sink in to apply to your parents when they get old.

I don’t have a retirement check or savings. I can’t afford supplemental insurance so doctor bills are piling up. It won’t be long before doctors will no longer see elderly people because the government keeps cutting what they pay for care for the elderly.

I can’t afford to go to the dentist, so I have no front teeth. I can’t afford LP gas in the winter, so the house is cold except for the room I am in with an electric heater, so you have to freeze to death when you go to the bathroom.

Every month after bills I wind up with 5 or 6 bucks in the bank for groceries, yet people who never work a day in their lives have children without “fathers,” have grocery carts full of food, a free phone, a nice car and the government pays their rent in a nice home.

My sister who is 71 needs help with food and the government gave her $17 a month in food stamps.

The elderly are the last ones this government looks out for. So if you have an elderly neighbor who is a widow, you might take time to notice if her grass is two feet tall, or maybe roll her garbage can down to the street if she is having trouble walking. You could even drop by for a visit to see if she needs anything.

If you are a parent of children, don’t bother to stay home and be a “good parent.” All it will do is cut back on the Social Security you get, and you won’t have retirement to fall back on.

And no matter how much you love and take care of your children, love them, bring them up in church, make sure their clothes are clean, bathe them, buy them a car, it won’t make a damn when you get old.

They will be too busy to be bothered with you. “You need to make your own happiness,” don’t forget that one.

How happy can you be when you are alone with no one to talk to, no way to bathe, high grass and leaves in the yard and so on and so on ...

Remember God said take care of the widows and orphans. I don’t want you to feel sorry for me. I just hope you read my letter and cut the old lady next door’s grass. Believe me, it will make her “happy.”

Unsigned

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Hoax or not,

everything this person says is true, this is a message that all should take to heart, then take action.

Orphans and widows - yes, some of our finest (oft times religious) organizations in Fayette County will not help orphans and widows, I know, I've contacted them. It is interesting to see folks driving to church on Sunday mornings, right past the people who obviously could use a little help.

Sometimes it may appear that all is well, looks like the old gal can take care of herself, but you have no idea what real conditions exist, did you ever ask. Obvious things like the grass, roof, gutters, tree limbs, flat tires; if no one will see or help with things like this; why would a widow dare think someone would help with plumbing, heat, electrical problems, and the like.

Way way back in the day my daddy, jack of all trades, would check on and help people he barely knew. Likewise my 80 year old uncle was always helping the "old people" in his town. Both would have been hurt and offended to be offered payment, they were just glad to 'take care of folks and help out where they could'. Today folks won't even get in the truck to come see the problem for less than $50. The rewards for showing kindness are not always monetary or even here on earth.

Hoax, perhaps, but the sad fact is there really are situations like this all around us. Sometimes even if a person isn't old, or alone, or widowed, or disadvantaged in any way it's just nice to help your neighbor get the mule out of the ditch, no matter how many times it takes.

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You hit the nail on the head, Ms. Pilchard!

In the old days your daddy and mine and many others considered it a duty to help older and disadvantaged people. Charity begins at home and all that. Churches also stepped up to the plate and helped. There wasn't any doubt about donating used clothing, food, tools, toys, whatever when the church asked. So what happened? The Great Society happened. Government knows best how to do everything and that includes charity. So in 1 short generation from the 1960's government destroyed the black family unit and created a whole underclass of people (of all races) 100% dependent upon government. And there is a second underclass - those that cheat and game the system.

That makes people descended from your daddy and mine angry and uninvolved. More importantly it makes us suspicious of people that really do need help (like the letter writer) and she goes through life unhelped. That is really sad. We have come a long way in 50 years and it is certainly not an improvement.

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Mr. Editor-Morgan never had

a mother. He was spawned by a giant blue lobster in Boston's Back Bay in 1917 and he survived by swimming against the tide till he found a Boston Braves fan who migrated south in an old boxcar. He begged to come along and fell out just up the road from some new homes with big front porches being built and exclaimed, "I think I'll buy a cahr and settle down heaahh and sell some of these puppies to make a few buckaroos."

Thus, the legend of RWM began....hmmm, maybe a movie studio might want to have a chat with the old codgah---ayuup....:)

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I lost my Mother to cancer

I lost my Mother to cancer many years ago. I always tried to be a ‘good son’ and do the things to take care of her, but when she is gone you always wonder what else you could have done. How much more I should have done to show her how much she was loved and how thankful I was to have that “stay at home Mom”.
This letter really touched my heart. Please find this mother and let some of us who can, and will help in some way. God bless her and all our Moms. I love you Mommy.

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To: bigblue

I also lost my Mother to Cancer just over 10 years ago, and my Father almost 17 years ago. I feel the effects every single day and miss them both terribly. I am an only child and gave it my all when it came to my Parents. I cant ever imagine not helping my Parents when they needed me. I can only hope the writer of the letter see's this and will reach out to me. All I can do is reassure her that "we" have the best intensions to helping her and her Sister. I agree, it touched my heart as well. I promise, if I hear anything, I will reach out. Thank You all for the kindness.

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Also Want to Help

Please update us if you are able to find this woman (and also her sister.) There are many of us who would like to help out!

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Re: Also Want to Help

I sure will. Thank You!

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Re: Also Want to Help

I sure will. Thank You!

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Wanting To Help

After reading the above my heart was heavy. If you wrote this letter or if you know who did, please send me a message on here. My Family and Friends have offered to help you in any way that we can. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going thru but just know there are people in your local community who care. Again, please reach out to me and send me a message. I promise not to release any information, just want to help.

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I want to help as well - it is a hoax!!!

Same letter has appeared several times elsewhere. Not as much as the "I'm stranded in a foreign country's airport" or the "I need to move millions of $ into your bank from Nigeria" but still, fraud. Cry me a frickin' river.

Notice no geographical reference.

Obamamaniacs trying to up the welfare handouts via. form letter.

Shame on you for falling for this.

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RWM - It's a hoax

Maybe the letter is a hoax, maybe not, but the message of helping your neighbor is not lost on me. The message of honoring your parents is not lost on me. The message of:

"Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me"

◄ Matthew 25:40 ►

In our efforts to free ourselves from the yolk of government enslavement, we must never forget our obligations to our fellow man that we can voluntarily perform as individuals. It is not our neighbor that is guilty of misdeeds it is collectivism and force of government that is at fault. It is the basis of your indifference and suspensions.

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PTCO: Exactly

"Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me"

That is one passage in the Bible that has always struck me the most and keeps me well-grounded.

I don't know if that letter is a hoax or not, but it seems strange that it would be hand-delivered to The citizen's offices and there isn't any come-on for money or anything else. Seems sort of legit to me on the surface.

If there is an elderly person living in FC right now under the conditions described in that letter, I would encourage that person to come forward and WE will help.

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Wow, RWM!
Robert W. Morgan wrote:

Same letter has appeared several times elsewhere. Not as much as the "I'm stranded in a foreign country's airport" or the "I need to move millions of $ into your bank from Nigeria" but still, fraud. Cry me a frickin' river.

Notice no geographical reference.

Obamamaniacs trying to up the welfare handouts via. form letter.

Shame on you for falling for this.

Just because some on here aren't as savvy as you and researched and because they showed some compassion and willingness to help, you call them out like this? Geez...what has this town I live in come to? NO compassion, full of hatred and sarcasm and anyone with compassion is accused of being a bleeding heart liberal Obama lover..........sad sad sad.

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Please provide your link evidence of a hoax

While I'm a sucker for a sob story, this one had some unique elements.

Snopes.com has no record of a widespread hoax. Perhaps you have better sources.

Perhaps you should present your evidence on your hoax claim.

If you provide specific evidence, I will publicize the letter as a hoax myself.

If you have no evidence, then I suggest you say so in this space.

I may be a sucker, but I have a special aversion to being called a liar.

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RWM

Ignorant Redneck, huh? At least I didn't get the slap down for accusing a 77-year old widow of being liar. Putz.

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Thank You!

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Re: It is a hoax!!!

I am not one to get on here and debate politics and found your "reply" very off the chart. I am, in my opinion, one of the most "don't fall for that, it's a hoax" people, and I don't let things get by me, or allow anyone to scam me. Regardless if the "letter" is legit or not, who are you to "shame" others for wanting to help others if needed. If the "writer" does contact me or others on here, I can assure that all proper measures on my part would take place before just "doing or giving". Maybe you should volunteer or help someone and learn the "true feeling" of offering help really means. Not everything is about politics, Obamamaniacs, or crying frickin' rivers. Bottom line is... If I want to help I help, if not, I don't!! Have a wonderful evening!

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RWM

I refuse to let you deflate all the bleeding hearts with this news. Let them take solace in the much needed feel-good story that has emerged from Boston. Newspapers there are reporting that both bombers and several other family members were living on taxpayer-funded state welfare benefits as recently as 2012. These people were able to score all kinds of freebies simply by showing up here. Now, who in the world can't get that warm and fuzzy feeling over that story of social justice????

But wait, to show their gratitude and make the most of the redistributed opportunities they were afforded, we see what they felt was a just and deserved payback. What are the odds that they detonated the bombs with their Obama phone????

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A response by some students
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I refuse to let you deflate all the bleeding hearts with this news. Let them take solace in the much needed feel-good story that has emerged from Boston. Newspapers there are reporting that both bombers and several other family members were living on taxpayer-funded state welfare benefits as recently as 2012. These people were able to score all kinds of freebies simply by showing up here. Now, who in the world can't get that warm and fuzzy feeling over that story of social justice????What are the odds that they detonated the bombs with their Obama phone????

One reason that Americans are hated may be because of the ignorant, intolerant rhetoric that is found in social media and hate web sites. It appears to others throughout the world that Americans/the West still hate those whose skins are dark or who are not of the Christian faith.

Our sports/Olympic teams do a lot to contradict this opinion. (And of course the election/re-election of our President) The minority in this country who still spew hatred /fear is not subtle. It is sad that an American, with all of the advantages that this country offers has to spend so much time trying to prove his/her superiorty through hate and/or fear.

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DM, a few questions for you......

What was your reason for cutting and pasting everything I wrote, except for one specific sentence? Did that not fit in your line of reasoning?

What are the other reasons Americans are hated? What was their basis for hating us before Al Gore invented the Internet for social media and hate web sites?

This one is a rhetorical question (that means I already know the answer)....looking at the portion of the sentence you put in bold type, where in my post was there any mention of people whose skin is dark? Where is any mention of faith?

Was it my reference to living on taxpayer-funded state welfare benefits? Did that take you to dark skin?

Was it my reference to getting freebies? Did that take you to dark skin?

Was it the reference to social justice? Did that take you to dark skin?

Was it the reference to the Obama phone? Did that take you to dark skin?

Are you saying that those things only apply to people of dark skin color? How else could you take that leap? Did the students make that same leap themselves or could it be that a certain race-baiter who even sees race in her morning bowl of oatmeal is leading them there? Hmmmm???

How do you know how much time I spend doing anything? Why do you continue to read my posts? Why do you continue to respond when you said months ago you were done responding to me? I liked it better when you were responding to me. but rarely did?

Finally, are the parents of those students aware that you are training them to see race in everything? Oh, have you taken them with you out in public yet to report back to us again on how whitey is reacting to people of color? Or is that the graduation exercise you have planned?

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meanie

Don't you see the leap of Faith? That we are the meanies out to get everyone who isn't white? You will never change DM, she turns everything into black and white and does more race baiting than I've ever seen. I'm convinced she is a 'group' of people and not just one. It is impossible for one person to spew that much race baiting and and not go crackers a long time ago.

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You're right, DM...

...they could be Islamic extremists with that attitude!!

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Actions of good neighbors

As found in Fayette County

1. Pick up the morning paper and place it on the doorstep of an incapacitated neighbor
2. Cut a neighbors lawn
3. Stop by and visit with a neighbor who is alone
4. WAVE!

I could go on. Fayette County is full of good neighbors! There are schools that have a 'community service' component in the curriculum, and students help elderly persons who live alone. Hoax or not, it made me think of ways I could be more neighborly. Thanks for sharing. This article blessed someone.

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A Hand Up
Davids mom wrote:

As found in Fayette County

1. Pick up the morning paper and place it on the doorstep of an incapacitated neighbor
2. Cut a neighbors lawn
3. Stop by and visit with a neighbor who is alone
4. WAVE!

I could go on. Fayette County is full of good neighbors! There are schools that have a 'community service' component in the curriculum, and students help elderly persons who live alone. Hoax or not, it made me think of ways I could be more neighborly. Thanks for sharing. This article blessed someone.

Yes, indeed. We used to be a Nation of people who wanted to give a needy person a "hand up", now we tend to just wait for someone else to give them a "hand out". Watching out for your fellow man is something that people nowadays prefer just to let "someone else" do. I hope I never forget my old fashioned democratic training: help a friend with a hand up. I have given plenty of "hand outs" in my life as well and I have a feeling this lady needs a "hand up" from a few caring folks. Hoax or not, it's a good reminder of what we ought to be doing as a community. It's very exciting to know about the churches around here who have the community gardens, food pantries, clothes closets etc. Unfortunately, due to the economy, those options are fewer than they used to be. May I never become a cold hearted person who turns a blind eye.

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Speak for yourself......
RKS wrote:

Watching out for your fellow man is something that people nowadays prefer just to let "someone else" do.

There are those that talk, and there are those that do.

Who's More Generous: Republicans or Democrats?

States that voted Republican in the last presidential race are far more likely to be generous to charities than those voting Democrat, a report by the Chronicle of Philanthropy suggests. Cities and states, it turns out, are just as polarized as in the nation’s electorate.

Do Republicans or Democrats give more to Charity?

Answer:Republicans give more than twice what Democrats give in charitable contributions.
In 2008 Arthur C. Brooks wrote a book that included information on this very question and found that even though on average Democrat households have higher incomes, the Republican or Conservative households donate more of their income. Republicans also donate more blood as well.

Bleeding Heart Tightwads

Liberals show tremendous compassion in pushing for generous government spending to help the neediest people at home and abroad. Yet when it comes to individual contributions to charitable causes, liberals are cheapskates.

Translation: The bedwetters are just fine spending other peoples money and claim to be charitable. The truth of the matter is that they are nothing but a bunch of hypocrites.

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Repub/Demo-Joe

I knew it wouldn't take long for you to jump in and try to make it a Repub and Demo thing. Again, you have been to Home Depot and bought the biggest paint brush you can find to paint us a picture.

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Stick to the matter only

Once again, I am posting to the original letter that was posted by the Citizen Newspaper... Once again, I am asking the author of the letter that was dropped off at the Citizen Newspaper office to contact me. I will not let it be known via the internet your name, just know you have locals wanting and offering to help you in any way that we can. I don't know if you will ever see these postings, but I am trying to offer you help. I am also asking (nicely) please DO NOT make this a political or racial issue. None of that matters to me AT ALL... I know what is the right thing to do, and refuse to allow others to make it into something that it should not be. If you feel the need to make it these issues, please pick another subject line to comment on. Just trying to help someone who I feel really needs and wants the help and I expect nothing in return other than the feeling that I might can reach out and make someone's day a little brighter.

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